Pictured: Lourdi ‘Lordy’ Ramadan
A chilling note left behind by her fiancé may hold vital clues to the final moments of a woman killed in a suspected murder-suicide.
Lourdi ‘Lordy’ Ramadan’s decomposing remains were discovered inside a furniture chest at her Sapphire apartment complex in Labrador on the Gold Coast about 10.20am on Friday after her concerned family, who live in Victoria, raised the alarm.
Police found the corpse of her fiancé and carer Craig Bouma upon arrival, but did not discover the 49-year-old’s concealed body until an hour later during a wider search of the home.
Detectives believe Bouma stayed with his partner’s dead body for days before taking his own life.
He was his fiancée’s carer as she battled with a chronic illness.
Ms Ramadan’s heartbroken family has been informed of the contents of a letter found near Bouma’s body explaining his alleged actions, which has added anger to their grief.
Lourdi ‘Lordy’ Ramadan (pictured) had been battling with a chronic illness
The body of Craig Bouma (left) was found inside the unit before a wider search found the body of his fiancee Lordy (right) in a furniture chest
‘In the letter apparently it said he wanted to get rid of her pain and suffering and that’s what he’s done,’ her furious brother Alex Ramadan told the Courier Mail.
‘That’s what we’ve been told. I’m still waiting to see the letter but it’s f**king stupid. It doesn’t give him the right to do that.’
He told the ABC: ‘They found a note stating that, ‘I did what I had to do just to get the pain away from her.’
He added his family were left baffled by his sister’s death, claiming there were no signs of domestic violence, but added Bouma was controlling her medication.
The fresh details emerged as Ms Ramadan’s distraught family broke their silence to pay tribute.
Ms Ramadan has been described as a loving and caring sister and aunty.
Lordy Ramadan, 49, was found dead inside a furniture chest on the Gold Coast on Friday morning
Forensic officers were seen at the scene on the Gold Coast on Friday after the suspected murder suicide of Craig Bouma, 53, and Lordy Ramadan
‘A life taken away too soon. Lordy was beautiful, kind and a generous loving soul, always putting others’ needs before hers,’ her sister Marina told the Brisbane Times.
‘Nothing breaks our hearts more than having a world that no longer has her in it.’
The siblings were close growing up, shared the same friends, and had an ‘unbreakable bond’.
Marina said he sister was unable to have children due to a series of health conditions including fibromyalgia, a chronic condition that causes pain throughout the body, and loved her nephew Ethan like he was her own.
Her brother Alex added Lordy was his best friend.
‘She was amazing. She could do anything, she could accomplish anything,’ he told the Gold Coast Bulletin.
Lordy’s family didn’t see any signs anything was wrong between her (right) and her fiance Craig Bouma (left)
Lordy Ramadan (right) was always a doting big sister to Marina (left)
He saw no indication but anything was wrong between Ms Ramadan and her fiancé.
‘I didn’t actually see any signs to tell you the truth, I thought everything was good,’ he said.
‘He was actually a gentleman — he was a gentleman to her, to tell you the truth – he did love her.’
Mr Ramadan has set up a GoFundMe to help his elderly parents cover the cost of bringing his sister’s body back to Victoria to ‘give her the farewell she deserves’, which has already raised almost $3,250.
Lordy Ramadan (pictured) was unable to have her own children and loved her nephew like a son
The family have also recalled the last time they heard from Ms Ramadan when she asked for pictures of her niece’s first birthday party on the Saturday night before her death.
When her father sent them to her, she replied ‘thank you’. The family never heard from her again.
But it wasn’t until her mother tried to phone her on the Sunday, like she did every day, that the family started to worry.
‘[Our mother] rang her partner on the Sunday, he answered and said she was in bed sick, sleeping and ‘I’ll get her to call you back’, and he never answered his phone again,’ Mr Ramadan said.
He tried calling again on the Wednesday and sent a message, and called for a welfare check when he still had no response.
The apparent murder-suicide happened at the upmarket Sapphire at the Broadway on the Gold Coast
Police have not yet confirmed Ms Ramadan’s time of death, but her family believe she was dead when they tried to phone.
Detective Inspector Chris Ahearn said on Saturday that her body was so decomposed it was likely she had been dead for a week.
Inspector Ahearn said there were indications Bouma may have been responsible for her death.
Residents said Bouma was a ‘really nice guy’ and they were shocked to hear of something so horrific happening in their neighbourhood
‘The male doesn’t appear to have any injuries so we are interested in the results of the post-mortem examination to give us an indication as to his cause of death,’ he said.
The couple were in a de facto relationship for the past 10 years and moved to the Gold Coast three years ago because the climate was better for her health.
‘Queensland police have not had contact with these people in that time,’ he said. ‘There are no domestic violence orders in place,’ Inspector Ahern said.
Police are still investigating the deaths and trying to determine if the couple had a history of domestic violence.
Residents said the man was a ‘really nice guy’ and they were shocked to hear of something so horrific happening in their neighbourhood.
‘He was always really happy and really smiley,’ she said. ‘I only knew them to say hello to but he was always lovely.’
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