Australian dating coach Louanne Ward reveals most desirable personality traits

The personality traits that make you ‘irresistible’ to others have been revealed by a dating coach – and the answers might surprise you.

Louanne Ward posted in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, asking Australian singles what they believe ‘makes someone magnetic’.

The professional matchmaker from Perth, WA, said there are ‘certain character traits’ we look for in potential partners, but what might attract you to someone in the early days of romance could be the very thing to turn you off further down the track.

Ms Ward said men and women who are successful in dating and long-term love ‘almost always’ have one common trait – what she calls a ‘central maintenance’ persona.

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Professional matchmaker Louanne Ward (pictured) said those with ‘central maintenance’ personality types are most successful in the game of love

These people know exactly who they are and set clear boundaries that allow relationships to flourish, she said, providing a perfect balance of independence and partnership that helps both parties grow.

‘You’ve got to be spontaneous, joyful, independent and fun, they’re the things that are desirable in a relationship,’ she added.

Ms Ward said being either ‘low maintenance’ or ‘high maintenance’ make it difficult to attract suitors and maintain long-lasting relationships.

Although being ‘laidback and low maintenance’ can be attractive, she warns being too relaxed and lackadaisical can make you ‘uninteresting’ after a while. 

Ms Ward recalled a client who was heartbroken after being dumped by a string of three consecutive boyfriends. 

Despite her most recent relationship appearing to run smoothly, her partner ended things after just two years because he felt ‘bored’ by the fact they already behaved like an ‘old married couple’.

Ms Ward said it’s important for those with easy-going dispositions to remember that relationships still need some excitement.

‘Being low maintenance is fine, but it’s not natural to be in that state all the time,’ she added. 

Ms Ward said what might attract you to someone in the early days of romance could be the very thing to turn you off further down the track (stock image)

Likewise, Ms Ward argues those who are ‘high maintenance’ in terms of their emotional needs and dependencies will have trouble sustaining long-term relationships.

‘At first when you meet them, having someone high maintenance can be quite attractive. People love a challenge,’ she said.

But overly assertive partners can be ‘demanding’ and ‘controlling’ over time, Ms Ward warned.