Demi Lovato has come out as non-binary.
The singer, 28, shared the news with their fans in a video posted to Twitter on Wednesday, adding that they will be changing pronouns to they/them.
Demi, who identifies as pansexual, said that they don’t want to be seen as an ‘expert or spokesperson,’ and has ‘opened up another level of vulnerability’ by sharing the news with their fans.
‘I’ve been doing some healing and self-reflective work’: Demi Lovato has come out as non-binary and has changed pronouns to they/them in a video shared with fans on Wednesday
Candid: The singer shared the news with fans alongside a lengthy Twitter thread, writing that sharing their new identity has ‘opened up another level of vulnerability’
Demi shared the clip revealing their new identification with fans alongside a lengthy Twitter thread, to mark the launch of their podcast series 4D with Demi Lovato.
In the video they said: ‘I want to take this moment to share something very personal with you.
‘Over the past year-and-a-half I’ve been doing some healing and self-reflective work, and through this work I’ve had the revelation that I identify as non-binary.
‘With that said, I’ll be officially changing my pronouns to they/them. I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering.’
Important: Demi announced their new gender identity in a video to mark the launch of their new podcast series 4D With Demi Lovato
Demi was joined by American writer, Alok Vaid-Menon, (right) during the conversation, Alok is gender non-conforming and transfeminine and uses singular ‘they’ pronouns
‘I want to make it clear I’m still learning and coming into myself – I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson.’
Demi went onto urge fans to ‘keep living in your truths,’ and sent ‘so much love’ to those who are still struggling to come to terms with their identity.
In a Twitter thread to accompany the video, the star added: ‘Every day we wake up, we are given another opportunity & chance to be who we want and wish to be.
‘I’ve spent the majority of my life growing in front of all of you… you’ve seen the good, the bad, & everything in between.
Candid: The hitmaker said: ‘I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am’
‘Not only has my life been a journey for myself, I was also living for those on the other side of the cameras.
‘Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all – I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary & will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward
‘This has come after a lot of healing and self-reflective work. I’m still learning & coming into myself, & I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson. Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me.
‘I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths & know I am sending so much love your way xox (sic).’
Speaking out: Alongside a video to promote their new podcast, Demi also came out to fans in a lengthy Twitter thread
Demi went onto discuss their decision to come out in the first episode of their 4D podcast alongside gender non-conforming writer and artist Alok Vaid-Menon.
They explained: ‘In 2018, when I overdosed, I feel like the reason why that happened was because I was ignoring my truth, and I was suppressing who I really am in order to please stylists or team members or even fans that wanted me to be the sexy feminine popstar in a leotard and look a certain way, I thought that was what I was supposed to be.
‘Now I realise it’s so much more important to live your truth than to ever suppress yourself because that’s the kind of stuff that happens when you do.’
‘There’s nothing more freeing for me than to be unattached to a role that society wants me to play. I fully believe that gender is just another boundary that separates humanity from divine wisdom.’
Demi also reiterated that being non-binary didn’t necessarily mean they would stop enjoying dressing in a feminine way, insisting it doesn’t invalidate their gender identity.
The past: Over the years Demi has had well publicised relationships with men like longtime on and off again boyfriend Wilmer Valderamma and an engagement to Max Ehrich (pictured)
They continued: ‘There might be a time where I wanna wear a full wig, there might be a time where I want to dress completely femme presenting.
‘That doesn’t mean that in that moment, I’m identifying as a woman, it just means that’s what I want to wear in that moment. I want people to understand that just because I’m non-binary, doesn’t mean I’m not going to dress the way I want.’
Demi added: ‘To me it would mean the world if people could start identifying me as they/them. I will also be accepting if people slip and say her/she, because I know being in my position, it’s going to take a while for people to get used to.
‘I just want them to be making the effort. I think it’s important because I want to use these pronouns to feel right to me; I also just don’t want people to be so afraid of messing up that they don’t try to use them.’
Demi was recently at the centre of controversy when they made thinly-veiled threats to LA yogurt shop The Bigg Chill via a series of private direct messages that surfaced last month, while publicly attempting to issue a half-apology for their actions on Instagram.
DEMI LOVATO’S PREVIOUS CONTROVERSIES AND SHOCKS
March 2015: Demi criticised a performance by singer Lady Gaga which saw the Bad Romance hitmaker appear to vomit on one of her dancers, claiming it ‘glamourised eating disorders.’ Gaga later denied the display had any relation to eating disorders and stated she took such struggles ‘very seriously.’
September 2015: Demi faced backlash from fans when they criticised the makers of Barbies for deciding to create a doll to emulate the actress Zendaya. They tweeted that the toy’s makers should consider making a curve doll in their image. Furious fans then criticised the star for ‘stealing Zendaya’s moment.’
February 2016: Following a court ruling against singer Kesha during her legal battle with Dr Luke, Demi criticised Taylor Swift for not speaking out against the case. Taylor later donated $250,000 to Kesha’s legal fund, but Demi still slammed the star in a series of Instagram comments, adding they would rather ‘start a dialogue ABOUT WOMEN COMING FORWARD ABOUT BEING RAPED than throw money at one person.’
Demi’s feud with Taylor rumbled on when the star’s girl squad, who appeared in her video for Bad Blood, all unfollowed Demi when they shared a selfie with model Hailey Bieber (then Baldwin).
2018: Demi came under fire for revealing they played a prank on their bodyguard which many said was akin to sexual assault. Despite initially standing by the statement, they later said: ‘Sorry if anyone was offended’
2019: Demi was forced to apologise after accepting a free trip to Israel that sparked controversy due to the Israel/Palestine conflict. They said in a statement: ‘This was meant to be a spiritual experience for me, NOT A POLITICAL STATEMENT’
2020: Fans slammed Demi for mentioning Breonna Taylor, a Black woman who was shot and killed by police, in a statement defending their then-fiancé Max Ehrich, about reported historic screenshots showing him professing his love for Selena Gomez
They branded the posts ‘fake’ and challenged ‘any tabloid that dares type my name to mention Breonna Taylor and that fact that her murderers still haven’t been arrested’ on their Instagram. Fans accused Demi of using the late woman as a ‘scapegoat’ to ‘deflect’ from their drama
March 2021: Demi shocked fans when they discussed their ‘fluid’ sexuality. They said: ‘I’m very fluid. I think love is love. You can find it in any gender. I like the freedom of being able to flirt with whoever I want’
April 2021: The star detailed how they felt ‘liberated’ when they cut their hair short because of how it helped them shed ‘gender and sexuality norms’ they were raised with as a ‘Christian in the South’
April 2021: Demi revealed that despite their overdose in 2018, they haven’t sworn off drinking alcohol or smoking weed in the future, telling Glamour: ‘A one-size-fits-all solution does not work for everybody. What I’m encouraging people to do is just make choices for themselves, autonomy, for me, is what changed my life.’
April 2021: Demi was slammed by fans after they criticised The Bigg Chill, an LA based frozen yogurt shop, over their excess of diet-geared inventory. They accused the the shop of ‘harmful messaging from brands or companies that perpetuate a society that not only enables but praises disordered eating.’ The shop apologised to Demi in a direct message, which the star subsequently posted online.
The singer then posted a response to the controversy in an eight-and-half minute video, where they explained why they were ‘triggered’ by sugar-free items sold at the small business.
However, leaked direct messages allegedly written by the singer, published by TMZ, paint a different story, as Demi warned The Bigg Chill, ‘you don’t want to mess with me.’
In their lengthy video, Demi also said they hoped they had opened up a dialogue with The Bigg Chill, and said they were taking it upon themselves to change America.
They accused the shop of ‘harmful messaging from brands or companies that perpetuate a society that not only enables but praises disordered eating.’
The establishment responded to the Sorry Not Sorry songstress in a direct message, which they subsequently posted online.
The singer then posted a response to the controversy in an eight-and-half minute video, where they explained why they were ‘triggered’ by sugar-free items sold at the small business, and claimed they would ‘work with them’ on ‘doing better.’
However, leaked direct messages allegedly written by the singer, published by TMZ, paint a different story, as Demi warned The Bigg Chill, ‘you don’t want to mess with me’ and advised them to stop trying to fight back against their arguments.
In their lengthy video, Demi also said they hoped they had now opened up a dialogue with The Bigg Chill, and said they were taking it upon themselves to change America and the world to help those with eating disorders.
In March, Demi revealed that they now identify as pansexual, and wouldn’t rule out the prospect of adopting children in the future.
Speaking on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast, they explained: ‘In this moment I want to adopt [children] for sure. I also don’t know if I’m going to end up with a guy, so I can’t really see myself even getting pregnant.’
They continued: ‘I don’t know. I’m so fluid now, and a part of the reason why I am so fluid is because I was super closeted off.’
To clarify Joe asked Demi to elaborate on their sexual fluidity and whether that means they are pansexual – meaning they are attracted to a person regardless of sexual or gender identity.
‘What do they call that? ‘Pansexual’?’ Rogan asked. ‘Yeah, pansexual,’ Demi said, quipping: ‘[I like] anything, really.’
Their truth: In March, Demi revealed that they now identify as pansexual, and wouldn’t rule out the prospect of adopting children in the future
Over the years Demi has had well publicised relationships with men like their longtime on and off again boyfriend Wilmer Valderamma and, more recently, their failed engagement to Max Ehrich.
‘I was engaged to a man last year. I totally thought I’d be married, maybe pregnant right now, and that’s not the case, so I’ve just stopped kind of attaching myself to — I know that my life is not going according to my plan,’ they told Rogan.
Demi also previously insisted that they are ‘too gay to marry a man right now’ and was ‘hella queer’ after calling off their relationship with Ehrich.
In October, Demi also stated they are ‘very fluid’ in their sexuality in a Facebook special for National Coming Out Day, and shed light on the moment it dawned on them that they were attracted to women.
Selma and Sarah Michelle locked lips in the 1999 teen drama Cruel Intentions which also starred future spouses Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe.
Dish: It comes after Demi stated they are ‘very fluid’ in their sexuality in a Facebook special for National Coming Out Day in October
‘So it was definitely when I was young and should not have been watching Cruel Intentions but I did,’ Demi told Tan on the special.
‘And it was that scene where they made out on the park lawn and I was just like: ‘Oh, wait a minute, I really like that!’ they said, giggling. ‘I was like: ‘I wanna try it!’
The singing sensation added: ‘And then when I was like 17 I did get down with that and that’s when I knew. That’s the tea!’
At that point Demi had already become a child star on the Disney Channel, which meant that after coming out in their personal life they had to do so to the world.
‘I pretty much told all of my friends and my older sister when I was 17. They all knew before, you know, I brought it to my parents and then the public. And that, those were my three phases – friends, parents, public,’ said Demi.
‘There were times when I wrote songs about girls that my fans thought I wrote about guys. I’m surprised that some of them didn’t figure out that some of the songs were for certain people. I was sharing it with the world and yet I wasn’t being completely obvious with what I was talking about. Music was my safe space,’ they dished.
Demi, who broke their engagement with Max Ehrich in September, shared the heartwarming story of when they told their mother Dianna about their sexuality.
They recalled that ‘I was about to go on a date with a girl and if my mom saw I just wanted to like call her and be like: ‘Hey, Mom, just so you know, I’m about to go out with a girl and I just need you to know what’s up.”
The Albuquerque-born singer shared that ‘we never talked about it and so then I kind of internalized that and added shame onto not just outright telling her, and I held onto that for years. And so for me it was a very emotional phone call.’
However: ‘For her she was just like: ‘Honey, I want you to be happy, and if that’s what a man, if that’s with a woman, I don’t – whatever. I just want you to be happy.’
Demi noted: ‘And so that was a beautiful phone call for me and I’m very fortunate that I got to have that experience ’cause I know that a lot of people don’t, but you know, it’s something that I think we’re progressing with in time, where like more and more people are getting to have that experience as well.’
Before coming out to their fans Demi had a high-profile six-year romance with Wilmer Valderrama with whom they are still friends.
In public they kept mum about their sexuality prior to 2017 when they starred in the documentary Simply Complicated and said they were willing to date women.
The following year Demi told InStyle: ‘I’m very fluid, and I think love is love. You can find it in any gender. I like the freedom of being able to flirt with whoever I want.’
Demi also recently opened up about their history as a sexual assault survivor and near-fatal 2018 overdose in the YouTube Originals docuseries, Demi Lovato: Dancing with the Devil.
Demi said it was ‘liberating’ to share their story with the public, telling People: ‘Having put that out in front of the camera and knowing that people have seen that, it’s freeing. It’s empowering.’
‘It really lets that anger that was inside of me dissolve,’ she went on. ‘I had let go of a lot of the anger before and, but this was kind of just the final send-off, like, okay, I can really heal from this now.’
Still single: In public Demi kept mum about their sexuality, prior to 2017 when they starred in the documentary Simply Complicated and said they were willing to date women