We always used to talk about the authoritarian protectors and how to deal with them, but in some cities or villages, the wife finds that she is between two scales or between the two sides, fighting two parties, trying not to give a chance to win a hand to take the role of the opinion and the word in her family and private life, but it is better A year in which the new wife in marriage tries to take responsibility, and improve family relations with the husband’s family, such as the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law, as Dr. Hala Azab, an etiquette expert, explained in her speech to “The Seventh Day” how to reach a quiet family life, especially if the wife feels that there is tyranny from a sister The husband, or she is a domineering personality, through some steps of the art of etiquette in dealing with her in a smart and elegant way as follows.
First, avoid talking to her
The wife should avoid entering into a dialogue with any authoritarian figure from her husband’s family, because she will simply monopolize the dialogue and you will find this character begins to give orders and impose control in one way or another on her, so she should not start a conversation that may make the dialogue in the form of orders and prohibitions and continuous criticism, and not She allows her to taunt and belittle her, or silence her in front of others, and if the wife finds this action from her, she must completely ignore it in front of others, and complete her conversation with the use of body language to attract the attention of those present, and then she must tell her that she will not accept this act from her again.
Second: Don’t let her know private details
If you live with her in the family home, you must agree with your husband that no one will enter your house without your permission, because she will enter without anyone’s permission just to provoke your feelings, with an explanation to the husband that there is a privacy that family life must follow, and if you find it has violated your system that Follow him, treat her with respect, and try to make her feel that there are secrets that she should not know, such as what is inside your bedroom or kitchen, etc., and you should not discuss her in her private life matters and do not accompany her so that she does not catch you mistakes.
Don’t talk about private matters
Third: Do not show your love for your husband in front of her
In order not to provoke her jealousy, do not show a great deal of love for your husband in front of her, and do not let her look at you that you are trying to provoke her and provoke her jealousy towards you.
Fourth: Don’t show your jealousy
Your decisions must stem from you, so do not change what you agreed upon with your husband to please her. You must know that the sister-in-law will try to lure her brother towards her, and you will always find her keeping secrets and side conversations with him in your presence, so try not to show your jealousy and distress from that, and pretend that you do not notice Her actions, and you can deal with her intelligently, which is to do what you agreed upon with your husband in your private life, and also make her feel the value of her opinion, so you try to take her opinion on secondary things such as the way of cooking or changing the places of furniture.
Fifth: Use of social media
If you cannot be friends on social media, you should be careful in writing your blogs or posts, as writing any post will be misinterpreted.
Sixth: Do not fall short with it
Do not fall short in your social duties towards her, as sharing special moments with her may make her feel accepting of your presence in their family, and this acceptance is one of the smartest types of dealing with this authoritarian personality, and makes you the closest and dearest to the hearts of your husband’s entire family.