Maintaining privacy in relationships is very important for your mental health, you are an adult and there are some limits that you must set with every person in your life, whatever form your relationship with them, whether it is your brother, parents, relatives, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, etc. .
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In a romantic relationship in particular, many feel embarrassed and confused at times about how to draw boundaries, so the “e times” site offered a number of tips:
Tips for setting boundaries in your romantic relationship:
What are your limits
First you need to know yourself and what your privacy boundaries include, what makes you upset if others interfere with it, make a list, sit down and explain it clearly to the other party you want to draw boundaries with.
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What can / cannot be accepted
After you’ve drawn your boundaries or tried to explain them, you also need to be a little flexible in the relationship. This is where the other step in “what’s okay” can step in. If there is an unacceptable list, take it out as well. Including checking your phone, reading emails or texts, etc. Tell him it’s “off limits”, but be calm and explain to the person how they are suffocating you or how these actions are causing you distress.
Be direct, don’t leave room for misunderstandings or communication errors, and don’t just give in to hints, the other party may not even realize your privacy has been overstepped, never assume they will automatically understand.
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Ask him to do the same
Once you have drawn your own boundaries and limitations, ask the other person to draw their own boundaries as well. This is healthy and shows your respect for the other person as well. Its limits can also be different, so you have to accept that too.
Your boundaries can also be physical, so draw the line, and make it clear to him the limits of your financial dealings, this will be comfortable for both parties.