Many women discover the personalities of their husbands after marriage, as the mask worn by both parties during the courtship period is lifted, and real matters begin to emerge, whether the person has good qualities or the characteristics of narcissism and aggression, so achieving the principle of parity in married life is one of the most important foundations and rules on which it is built The couple’s happiness, and “The Seventh Day” with Reham Abdel Rahman, a mental health and family counseling consultant, reviews the causes of narcissism in the husband and ways to deal with the narcissistic husband.
The mental health and family counseling consultant said in her speech to “The Seventh Day”: “Equality does not mean congruence, but rather cultural, social and material rapprochement. It warns of a problem that is one of the most serious problems facing the wife in the future, which is the aggressive and narcissistic behavior of the husband.
Causes and indicators of aggressive or narcissistic behavior in men:
One of the quickest reasons that contribute to the emergence of man’s narcissism is the abnormal upbringing in childhood, such as preventing the child from expressing his opinion or expressing his anger, so aggression appears as a reaction in his behavior in the future..
Physical and verbal abuse towards the wife in order to distort her psyche and take aggressive revenge on her is one of the most important indicators that confirm that this man suffers from narcissism.
The narcissistic man does not admit any mistake he makes, and does not accept the idea of apology, no matter what negative actions he has done towards others.
Constant feeling of inadequacy:
He always feels inferior and inferior, so he always resorts to authoritarianism and the desire to possess others, and he tries hard to impose negative control on his wife, reduce her, and her achievements in life.. He always uses deceptive tricks to control women’s feelings, such as resorting to punitive silence and disregard, in order to satisfy his desires, and if the woman objects, she is subject to his repeated attacks..
The narcissistic man focuses his attention on himself only, as he is a selfish person who does not think of others, and therefore does not have normal social relations, and life with an aggressive husband is one of the frustrating relationships in life,
Therefore, you must follow these steps in dealing with this type of narcissistic and aggressive men:
Strength of Personality:
Be firm and set limits in dealing with that husband, and take into account the feelings of your husband, the final goal is to solve the problem, and talk to him about the most important joint responsibilities between you, because the presence of common goals and responsibilities helps the couple to get closer.
Beware of negative sacrifices:
Do not make a negative sacrifice, as this sacrifice will often not be appreciated by this selfish and excessive narcissistic husband, as he often thinks only of himself.
Enjoy emotional stability.
Be careful and keep your cool, an aggressive guy wants you to get angry with him until he blames you for everything, so don’t give him a chance to do that.
Reham Abdel Rahman, a mental health and family counseling consultant, ends her talk to “The Seventh Day” by saying: “A narcissistic, aggressive personality needs psychological treatment, but many of them are not convinced of this, so only 30% of them resort to psychological treatment, and that is in only one case, which is the wife’s request. break up.
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