Bitterness in the heart besides many organic and psychological effects, a woman who is shocked by her husband’s marriage to a second woman experiences a feeling that her husband abandoned her and preferred another woman over her. Here she feels psychological shock and disappointment and may shake her self-confidence in addition to depression, social isolation and introversion.
Dr. Walid Hindi, a mental health and family relations consultant, said in his speech to “The Seventh Day” that what deepens the psychological wounds of a woman whose husband married her is that she has sacrificed a lot for her husband, such as losing work or money for him and spending long years of her life in his service. This psychological state will be completely reflected in the children within this family, so we offer a number of important tips to overcome this difficult stage as follows.
Tips to overcome the psychological crisis after the second marriage of the husband
1- Emotional stability When you hear the news of his marriage, you must have the skills of emotional stability and not be drawn into feelings of anger, so that you can absorb the shock easily, and you can arrange your upcoming thoughts and reduce expected losses.
2- Do not rush to ask for a divorce from your husband, so as not to fan the fire between you and become the only loser in this situation.
3- Do not try to follow the second wife, such as searching for her pages on various social networking sites and watching her photos and interactions, so as not to waste your energy and gain more negative energy and feelings of hatred, anger, and jealousy.
4- Do not create problems with the second wife or call her undesirable qualities such as (men’s hook, etc.) until the words reach your husband and deepen the wounds between you.
5- Take care of yourself and develop yourself, and make sure to engage in pleasant activities such as sports, hiking, going out, family visits and honoring parents.
6- Enroll in human development and skills development courses and acquire another language, especially from completing your higher studies if you wish to complete it.
7- If the husband asks you to get to know his second wife, beware that you agree to him immediately, but refuse to meet her over the course of the first 6 months or the first year, no matter how much the husband insists on you, and develop yourself first so that you are psychologically and externally qualified to meet her, while making sure that he still loves you.
8- Keep him away from material exhaustion because this act makes him hold on to her more and he begins to see bad qualities in you, which improves his mental image in front of himself and finds justifications for his marriage to you.
9- Make sure that your house is a source of attraction and comfort, so that before it is for your husband, make your house a “magnet” change the shape of the house, perfume it and decorate it, to attract yourself in the first place and thus attract your husband later.
10- Look for new training opportunities, perhaps after a while you cannot bear to have a second wife and decide to separate. Training and rehabilitation will benefit you until you get a suitable job opportunity that will financially enable you to decide on separation and divorce, and work will rid you of your negative energy and distract you from negative thinking.
11- It is necessary to get close to your children, as they are fun during this difficult stage in order to compensate them for the absence of the father and at the same time this rids you of your negative energy and gives you a positive energy.
12- Be patient for a year, and decide whether you will be able to adapt to this new situation or not? So that you can make the right decision, just as the husband may have his second marriage just a mid-life whim and he decides to separate from his second wife.
A scene from the series Hajj Metwally
Bitterness in the heart besides many organic and psychological effects, a woman who is shocked by her husband’s marriage to a second woman experiences a feeling that her husband abandoned her and preferred another woman over her. Here she feels psychological shock and disappointment and may shake her self-confidence in addition to depression, social isolation and introversion.
Dr. Walid Hindi, a mental health and family relations consultant, said in his speech to “The Seventh Day” that what deepens the psychological wounds of a woman whose husband married her is that she has sacrificed a lot for her husband, such as losing work or money for him and spending long years of her life in his service. This psychological state will be completely reflected in the children within this family, so we offer a number of important tips to overcome this difficult stage as follows.
Tips to overcome the psychological crisis after the second marriage of the husband
1- Emotional stability When you hear the news of his marriage, you must have the skills of emotional stability and not be drawn into feelings of anger, so that you can absorb the shock easily, and you can arrange your upcoming thoughts and reduce expected losses.
2- Do not rush to ask for a divorce from your husband, so as not to fan the fire between you and become the only loser in this situation.
3- Do not try to follow the second wife, such as searching for her pages on various social networking sites and watching her photos and interactions, so as not to waste your energy and gain more negative energy and feelings of hatred, anger, and jealousy.
4- Do not create problems with the second wife or call her undesirable qualities such as (men’s hook, etc.) until the words reach your husband and deepen the wounds between you.
5- Take care of yourself and develop yourself, and make sure to engage in pleasant activities such as sports, hiking, going out, family visits and honoring parents.
6- Enroll in human development and skills development courses and acquire another language, especially from completing your higher studies if you wish to complete it.
7- If the husband asks you to get to know his second wife, beware that you agree to him immediately, but refuse to meet her over the course of the first 6 months or the first year, no matter how much the husband insists on you, and develop yourself first so that you are psychologically and externally qualified to meet her, while making sure that he still loves you.
8- Keep him away from material exhaustion because this act makes him hold on to her more and he begins to see bad qualities in you, which improves his mental image in front of himself and finds justifications for his marriage to you.
9- Make sure that your house is a source of attraction and comfort, so that before it is for your husband, make your house a “magnet” change the shape of the house, perfume it and decorate it, to attract yourself in the first place and thus attract your husband later.
10- Look for new training opportunities, perhaps after a while you cannot bear to have a second wife and decide to separate. Training and rehabilitation will benefit you until you get a suitable job opportunity that will financially enable you to decide on separation and divorce, and work will rid you of your negative energy and distract you from negative thinking.
11- It is necessary to get close to your children, as they are fun during this difficult stage in order to compensate them for the absence of the father and at the same time this rids you of your negative energy and gives you a positive energy.
12- Be patient for a year, and decide whether you will be able to adapt to this new situation or not? So that you can make the right decision, just as the husband may have his second marriage just a mid-life whim and he decides to separate from his second wife.
A scene from the series Hajj Metwally