Kate Beckinsale has revealed that she secretly suffered the heartbreaking loss of a baby 20 weeks into her pregnancy, in light of Chrissy Teigen’s recent tragedy.
Taking to Instagram on Friday, the British actress, 47, spoke out in defence of Chrissy and her husband John Legend’s choice to share the news publicly, as she spoke candidly about how she was forced to deal with her own pain privately.
Sharing an inspirational quote, Kate confessed: ‘Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known.’
Heartbreaking: Kate Beckinsale has revealed that she secretly suffered the heartbreaking loss of a baby 20 weeks into her pregnancy, in light of Chrissy Teigen’s recent tragedy.
She started her post defending Chrissy, writing: ‘I’ve noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby.
‘As if there’s some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable.
‘Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known.
Inspirational: The British actress took to Instagram on Friday to share an inspirational quote
Secret agony: Kate confessed, ‘Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known’
‘There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture. Your milk comes in, with no one to feed.
‘It can be the loneliest, most soul destroying period of time, particularly if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has.
‘I think it’s an honour to be allowed into another persons grief, especially with a subject like this which so often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn’t, for you ,come to a bloody and terrible halt.
‘Sending so much love to the Legend family, but also so much to the women and couples who have kept it quiet and suffered. I know there are so many.
Concluding her post, Kate – who shares 21-year-old daughter with ex-husband Michael Sheen – thanked Chrissy for publicly sharing her experience.
Sad: Chrissy Teigen and her husband John Legend mourned the loss of their child in the hospital, sharing snaps of their fleeting time with their offspring on social media
She penned: ‘Thank you @chrissyteigen for making sure it is abundantly clear how devastating this is, and how life changing it can be without support.
‘Let’s let the grieving decide what’s right for them. Send support or keep quiet. This is a really hard time to bear. Blessings and hugs to all x.’
The image shared by Kate, whose divorce from Len Wiseman was finalised in November 2019, was of a noticeboard, which included comforting words surrounding the loss of a child.
It read: ‘Some babies are born to be angels and given Heaven instead… They are carried inside the hearts of broken-hearted parents and their families forever…
‘Leaving to fly with wings in paradise, where nothing can hurt them, instead of learning to walk on Earth… We grieve for them and what they might have been, asking why we couldn’t be together.’
Family: British star Kate shares 21-year-old daughter Lily with her ex-husband Michael Sheen
Meanwhile, Chrissy’s mother Vilailuck has shared a heart-wrenching video of herself crying over the loss of her grandson Jack, before giving the baby a tender kiss.
Chrissy, 34, announced on Wednesday she had tragically lost her third child around halfway into her pregnancy, days after she was admitted to the hospital with severe bleeding.
On Thursday, Vilailuck, who also goes by the name of Pepper, shared several photographs of herself cradling the baby inside the hospital.
She captioned the devastating Instagram post: ‘My heart aches love you so much baby Jack.’
Devastating: Chrissy Teigen’s mother Vilailuck has shared a heartwrenching video of herself crying over the loss of her grandson Jack, before giving him a kiss
The family have bravely taken the decision to document and share their tragic loss in a bid to help anyone else going through the same thing.
The posts begin with a video of a hospital worker presenting Jack to Vilailuck, who soon begins to cry.
‘You can touch him if you want,’ the employee informs Vilailuck.
An emotional Vilailuck gently places her hand upon the child, before bending down to give him a kiss.
Heartwrenching: She clasps her hands together and bows her head down in a prayerful gesture
Painful: The hospital worker presented the child to an emotional Vilailuck
She clasps her hands together and bows her head down in a prayerful gesture.The next two photos show Vilailuck holding the swaddled-up child in her arms.
Chrissy had been hospitalized at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles on Sunday night after enduring a month of bleeding due to having a weak placenta and had been at the hospital since.
She revealed she was on ‘serious bed rest’ due to the bleeding and ‘about halfway through her pregnancy’, which is around 20 – 24 weeks. A stillbirth is when a baby is born dead at 24 weeks or later.
Emotional: Vilailuck began crying not long after seeing the baby
Tragedy: The next two photos show Vilailuck holding the swaddled-up child in her arms – the family have been sharing their experience in a bid to help others
Chrissy had previously explained: ‘I’m about halfway through pregnancy and the blood has been going on for about a month, maybe a little bit less than a month.
‘We’re talking about more than your period girls, it’s definitely not spotting. A lot of people spot but it’s usually fine. Mine was a lot,’ she explained.
Teigen had already been on strict bed rest earlier this month but explained she was admitted to the hospital after her bleeding had worsened.
Grieving: Teigen shed tears as she sat on the hospital bed in a bravely honest post which she shared with her fans
What is a blood transfusion?
The NHS writes: ‘A blood transfusion is when you’re given blood from someone else (a donor). It’s a very safe procedure that can be lifesaving.
‘A blood transfusion may be needed if you have a shortage of red blood cells.
‘This may be because your body’s not making enough red blood cells or because you have lost blood.
‘For example, you may need a blood transfusion if you have
‘a condition that affects the way your red blood cells work – such as sickle cell disease or thalassaemia
‘a type of cancer or cancer treatment that can affect blood cells – including leukaemia, chemotherapy or stem cell transplants
‘severe bleeding – usually from surgery, childbirth or a serious accident
‘A blood transfusion can replace blood you have lost, or just replace the liquid or cells found in blood (such as red blood cells, plasma or cells called platelets)’
‘Everytime I go to the bathroom it would be blood, and honestly just laying there there would be blood.’
In an update on Monday, Chrissy said she and the baby were ‘completely fine.’
‘Hello from hospital. about to have my second blood transfusion which truly, truly, truly sounds more dramatic than it is. It’s an IV, but instead of fluids, the blood of some kind human being out there,’ she posted.
‘Baby and I are completely fine, just missing the little things like walking…cooking…playing with the other buttbutts.’
Chrissy made the heartbreaking announcement she had lost her child on Wednesday night, where she shared several devastating photos of herself in the aftermath.
‘We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before,’ Chrissy posted on Instagram.
‘We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.’
The couple typically don’t name their children until after birth, but Chrissy said they had already started referring to him as Jack.
‘We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital,’ she explained.
‘But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.’
There for each other: The couple held hands as Teigen laid in the hospital bed
Chrissy said: ‘Everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it’
Disbelief: Shortly after uploading her undeniably sad news to Instagram, Chrissy took to her Twitter page to further express her shock
‘To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.
‘Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers. We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you.
‘We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience.
‘But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.’
Heartbreaking: Chrissy shared a lengthy caption detailing their loss on Wednesday
‘We love you, Jack’: John also took to Twitter to share Chrissy’s post, while writing: ‘We love you, Jack’ alongside five black hearts
Support: After Chrissy announced the news, some of the couple’s closest friends, like Kim Kardashian and Gabrielle Union, voiced their condolences in the comment section
Take away the pain: Jesse Tyler Ferguson, who just became a dad for the first time with husband of seven-years Justin Mikita, 35, said that he wish he could ‘take away [Chrissy’s] heartbreak’
Chrissy and her husband John, who share daughter Luna, four, and son Miles, two, announced in the music video Wild they were expecting their third child together.
Chrissy was met with an outpouring of sympathy and support from fans and celebrities alike, including Kim Kardashian, Gabrielle Union, and Hailey Bieber, following the tragic news.
‘We’re always here for you and love you guys so much,’ wrote mom-of-four Kim.
For help and support with related issues, visit The International Stillbirth Alliance at www.stillbirthalliance.org or stillbirth, premature birth and miscarriage charity Tommy’s at www.tommys.org.
Her loves: Chrissy is pictured with her daughter Luna, four, and son Miles, two
WHAT IS A STILLBIRTH?
A stillbirth occurs when a baby is born dead after 24 weeks of pregnancy.
If a baby dies before 24 weeks of pregnancy, it is known as a miscarriage.
Not all stillbirths can be prevented, however, not smoking or drinking, as well as not sleeping on your back and attending all antenatal appointments can reduce the risk.
What are the signs?
Signs may include the baby not moving as much as normal.
Pregnant women should contact their doctor immediately if they notice a difference to their baby’s movement.
What are the causes?
Stillbirths do not always have an obvious cause but may occur due to complications with the placenta or a birth defect.
They are also more likely to occur if women suffer from high blood pressure, diabetes or an infection that affects the baby, such as flu.
Stillbirths are more likely to occur if women are having twins or multiple pregnancies, are overweight, smoke, are over 35 or have a pre-existing condition, such as epilepsy.
What happens after a stillbirth?
If a baby has died, women may wait for their labour to start naturally or they may be induced if their health is at risk.
Bereavement support groups are available to parents who have suffered stillbirths.
Some find it helpful to name their baby or take pictures with them.
Source: NHS Choices