Man’s ‘outrageous’ reason why doctor bride-to-be rejected his $20,000 diamond engagement ring leaves the internet divided
- A man has revealed how his doctor fiancée reacted to her engagement ring
- The woman didn’t want the ring because it was made with a lab grown stone
- He spent $20k on the ring and can’t understand anger over the huge diamond
A man has revealed how a $20,000 engagement ring almost derailed his relationship after his fiancée found out the centre stone was a ‘lab grown diamond’.
The 30-year-old man took to Reddit to ask for advice after feeling pressured to swap the 3.6 carat diamond for a natural stone to save his relationship.
The man said his 27-year-old fiancée loved the ring at first and said ‘yes’ to his proposal – leaving the couple ‘happier than ever’.
A man has revealed how a $20,000 engagement ring almost derailed his relationship – after his fiancée found out the ring’s centre stone was a ‘lab grown diamond’
But after a few weeks the woman, who is a doctor, was concerned over the generous size of the ring and wanted to know how much it cost.
‘I told her that I had spent about $20,000 on it and I had been squirreling away (money) for the last 10 years,’ he wrote.
‘She was initially floored that I had spent so much.’
When she became suspicious that he had been able to get such a large diamond so cheaply she asked to see the diamond certificate.
‘I, of course, showed it to her, I thought she was worried I had been duped into buying a fake,’ he explained.
He went on to say when she saw the diamond was lab grown she was devastated.
She wanted to know why he hadn’t bought her a ‘real’ stone.
Asking whether he was in the wrong, the man said he was floored by her reaction because he had always been vocal about his dislike of the natural diamond industry.
He said he didn’t like the environmental and social impact of the mining industry, something his partner of five years knew.
‘I had also employed the assistance of her friends and mother and everyone agreed that she wouldn’t care if the diamond was lab grown,’ he said.
Days later his partner asked if they could swap the stone for a natural diamond of the same value.
‘I said no, and said if she wanted to give the ring back and end our relationship, that is fine, but I would not exchange it.
‘She called me an a***hole and went to stay the night with her parents,’ he said.
He has since been inundated with messages from her friends and family asking him to reconsider switching out the stones in the ring.
‘Ultimately, I will if it means saving the relationship but I just feel like this is something worth being firm on,’ he said.
Thousands of Redditors agreed the man was not in the wrong.
The 30-year-old man took to Reddit on Wednesday to ask for advice after feeling pressured to swap the 3.6 carat diamond for a natural stone to save his relationship
‘She’s being picky and should’ve been happy about the ring,’ one woman said – adding that asking about its value is ‘tacky’.
‘She says that now, but if she’s b****ing about a $20k ring, I think there are bigger price tags in your future,’ said one man.
‘Look I don’t wanna tell you how to live your life but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who acted like this,’ said another.
But others disagreed.
‘It sounds like you got the “perfect ring” for you, not her. You’re turning this into something about how much you spent or about diamonds, when it’s far more likely she wanted a simple, practical ring,’ one woman argued.
‘If she is a doctor she probably can’t wear something that big. Switch it for something natural and stop showboating,’ one woman said.
‘Wow I googled it and you are right it is HUGE! and if she is a doctor she might not even be able to wear it to work everyday. Seems like an insane waste of money to me,’ one man added.