Most parents face a problem with children’s stubbornness, whether it is a persistent behavior or an occasional change in his behavior in protest of his feeling of neglect on the part of his parents or jealousy of the presence of a new born, and in both cases parents need to know the best way to deal with the child’s stubbornness.
Dr. Iman Abdullah, a consultant family psychologist, says that the proper handling of children’s stubbornness helps us in simple steps to get rid of this behavior.
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First: Do not force him to do anything
The psychological consultant clarified that the child should not be forced to do something, such as sitting with a relative, or going to a place he does not want, whether by beating, scolding or coercion, which makes us respect his desire and not force him or force him to do something that does not feel comfortable and reassuring while doing it.
Second: give him a space of freedom
This happens by placing several options in front of him and not placing the request in the imperative form, and the psychological consultant confirmed that the presence of several options in front of him makes the child increase his self-confidence while giving him a space of freedom to do what he wants according to the options that we set for him, and so the child does what we want too, but In a way that makes him think that he has an influential opinion within his family.
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Third: Avoid making comparisons between him and others
The psychological consultant also stressed the need to avoid putting the child in comparisons with others and to highlight their good deeds in front of his actions, which makes the idea of his stubbornness rooted in him and become a large part of his personality, in addition to supporting his strengths all the time and the emergence of his good actions in front of everyone, which gives him a strong push forward and his desire increase in your satisfaction.
Fourth: Do not look at the child superficially
The psychological consultant confirmed that the child’s personality is formed from the first moments of his realization, and when he reaches the age of 3 years, the formation of his personality, motives and emotions begins. Expresses these needs with stubbornness and insistence on his position.
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Fifth, listen carefully to the child
Listening to children when they are young makes them obedient to their parents in old age, which was explained by the psychological consultant, stressing the need to listen well to every word your child says in order to empty his pent-up energy in expressing his opinion, which increases his feeling of safety and that he has a role within his family.
Sixth: Promoting respect between the child and his parents
It is necessary to know the reason for his refusal or insistence on doing something in order to know well his motives and what is going on inside his mind, which makes there is a great promotion of respect between the child and his family, with the reasons for parents rejecting his requests or the reason for postponing them, which increases the child’s respect for the timing of rejection and his feeling of safety that what is He wants it will come true, but at a later time or when the possibilities become available.
