Australia’s ‘first women’s nude yoga teacher’ and her partner have taken the unusual step of advertising for a sperm donor and documenting the entire process on social media.
Rosie Rees, who also founded Yoni Pleasure Palace, and her 29-year-old girlfriend Ash MacDonald are hoping for a ‘blonde haired, blue eyed’ baby within the next two years.
The couple, who had both previously been in heterosexual relationships, have been together for two and half years and after Ash’s marriage ended, fell very quickly deeply in love.
They began publicly documenting their romance on Rosie’s Instagram page so when they decided to have a baby together, it felt natural to continue this process.
Rosie quit her corporate job in finance four years ago to start her own nude yoga practice, which specialises in helping groups of up to 30 women of all shapes and sizes to embrace their bodies.
Rosie Rees, who also founded Yoni Pleasure Palace, and her 29-year-old girlfriend Ash MacDonald are hoping for a ‘blonde haired, blue eyed’ baby within the next two years (pictured with Ash’s daughter from a separate marriage)
‘As soon as I met Ash, I fell in love straight away and wanted to share it publicly on Instagram. Initially it was difficult because I was worried about what people would think. I have had so many messages from women saying I have given them permission to explore that side of themselves,’ Rosie, 33, said.
‘We kiss and hold hands and share everything (on Instagram). It helps other women own their sexual orientation.’
Rosie said she was never maternal or wanted children until she met Ash, instead focusing on her business. But all that changed when she fell in love, which she finds ironic now she is with another woman.
Ash has a four-year-old daughter from her marriage and was adamant when she met Rosie she wanted two more children.
Ash said they began the process of trying for a baby the traditional way with an IVF clinic before hearing about the Facebook group, Sperm Donation Australia.
Rosie said she was never maternal or wanted children until she met Ash, instead focusing on her business. But all that changed when she fell in love, which she finds ironic now she is with another woman
‘I did a lot of research and reading and read scientific articles on donor children and donor parents,’ Ash explained.
‘I have seen close friends go through long IVF journeys with a lot of heartbreak and stress on their bodies. I didn’t want to have to go through any extra burden on our bodies or mental state if possible.
‘I had already had a baby and it was straightforward, so I thought why can’t we do that again. The more natural the better. It felt right for us.’
The couple advertised on the Facebook group asking for a donor with blonde hair and blue eyes to match Ash’s daughter, Makenzie.
‘We did an introduction of ourselves and a basic outline of what we were looking for. Up to date testing and we were happy to send regular updates but not co-parent,’ Ash said.
The two were overwhelmed with hundreds of offers from men to donate their sperm and had to spend time going through the messages.
They began publicly documenting their romance on Rosie’s Instagram page so when they decided to have a baby together, it felt natural to continue this process
Finally, they arranged to a meet a man who ticked all the boxes on paper, but when he found out about Rosie’s business, he froze.
The deal fell through and eventually they found another donor. After a month chatting with him on the phone and meeting him he came over to donate.
‘He had successfully donated in the past. He had blonde hair and blue eyes to match with Makenzie. His health was on point. He’s smart and there are no major genetic defects in the family and his sperm is strong,’ Ash said.
He arrived at the house and went into a spare room where he filled a cup with sperm and then texted them to say he’d left and good luck.
Rosie and Ash created a sensual environment in the bedroom to bring a baby into their lives.
‘We lit candles and made the bedroom beautiful, burnt essential oils and did some eye gazing and breathed together and set an intention. I call it conscious intention. Calling in the baby and having a clear connection with the baby. Rather than just whacking it in,’ Rosie explained.
‘We have an orgasm before and then put it in with a syringe and then have another orgasm to take it up.
Rosie said sharing their journey on Instagram is ‘definitely emotional’ but the response they have had from women has been incredible
‘It is nice to feel like you are making love to your partner and creating a baby. It felt nice that she was putting it in.’
Unfortunately, they were unsuccessful and will try again in the new year.
Rosie said sharing their journey on Instagram is ‘definitely emotional’ but the response they have had from women has been incredible.
‘Already we have had two women fall pregnant from sharing the sperm donation group a few months ago. Women are grateful there is another option and didn’t realise it was possible,’ Rosie said.
She said going through the clinic would have meant a long wait to begin the process with counselling and a cooling off period.
‘I am 33 and we want to have a baby before I’m 35 and that’s a long time in our biological clock. When you are ready you are ready. You don’t want to have to wait.’
Rosie has 76,000 followers on her Instagram page, and they have started another page specifically to share their baby making journey called ‘Two Mum Tribe’.
Ash said at first, she wanted to keep it private because it was highly personal, but there were so many people asking the same questions and urging them to share.
Rosie has 76,000 followers on her Instagram page, and they have started another page specifically to share their baby making journey called ‘Two Mum Tribe’
She said finding a private sperm donor was much cheaper than going through an IVF clinic and it was important their child had knowledge of where they came from.
Ash said their donor has already donated to about nine families, has children of his own and is in touch with the recipient families. They were also able to see photos of those babies.
She said they insisted on seeing medical tests related to sexually transmitted diseases, sperm health and he had also done genetic tests.
The three have also signed a written agreement they found on the internet to ensure the donor will not be asked for child support and is not the father of the child.
Rosie and Ash hope to use the same donor in a couple of years when they plan for Ash to carry another baby.
‘The men are doing it for the love of it. They are doing it for the kindness of it,’ Rosie said.
Rosie and Ash hope to use the same donor in a couple of years when they plan for Ash to carry another baby
Professor Fiona Kelly at La Trobe law school said it was important for people involved in private donations to understand you can’t contract about an unborn child.
She recommended people make an agreement to sort out rights and responsibilities which would only form evidence of their intention but is not binding on the parties or in a court.
‘It can be helpful if there is a dispute but ultimately any dispute about a child is what is in the child’s best interest,’ Professor Kelly said.
‘There is enormous amount of uncertainty and it remains a murky area.’
She said there are 20-30 cases in Australia where the donor has sought time with the child and in the majority of cases is successful.