Every mother seeks to raise her children on good morals, and accustom them from a young age to listen to her words and the requests of their father, but in many cases, the advice and instructions that she repeated to your child several times do not remain in his memory for a long time, which annoys many mothers and causes them to have tantrums at their children.
In the following report, Bright Side explains some tips that you can follow to make your children listen to your words without anger or screaming:
Focus your child’s attention on yourself
Children who get carried away in a game or fight won’t even notice that you’re talking to them, and therefore ignore your words or even yells. To get your child to listen to you and help him focus on what you’re saying, sit down or lean over and put your hand gently on his shoulder. This will help increase the chances of you hearing.
Make your child focus on you
Divide the information
The brains of children under the age of 7 can store no more than one to two pieces of information, and older children and adults can store up to 3 to 5 pieces. It’s best to frame all the important things you want to say in one or two short sentences, so your child’s brain isn’t stuffed with a bunch of tips and instructions.
Explain to your children how their behavior makes you feel
It is important for the child to understand how their actions affect the people and animals around them, you do not need to instill guilt in them, just make it clear that their actions can cause pain, sadness and resentment, and this will help your child learn empathy for others faster.
Tell your child how you feel with his words or what his behavior is telling you, eg, “You moan tells me you’re tired and it’s time to leave the playground.”
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listen to your children
Learn to listen carefully to your son or daughter without being interrupted or distracted by other things, such as watching a movie or sending a text. This forms the basis of trust between the two of you, and will make this child feel understood and will be more willing to listen to you.
Even if you catch them doing something they shouldn’t, let them talk, find out how they feel and what prompted them to do it, only then can you offer them any advice on the subject.
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Make them think for themselves
Instead of repeating safety rules to your children a thousand times, such as that they are not listening attentively, ask them a question about what they should do in a particular situation or how they see a particular problem. This will help them remember the rules better and you will not sound like a parrot when reminded of useful advice.
Make them think for themselves
