It is healthy in emotional relationships that the two parties deliberate on each other, but the problem of dependence is to focus the entire life of one of the parties around the other, cancel his personality in the relationship, focus his entire life around his partner, and make a lot of sacrifices for him, until he proves his love and loyalty to him, and here he must That this partner stop what he is doing so that it does not negatively affect his relationship with his partner and his personality.
Mary Joy, a human relations expert, spoke about the signs of dependent emotional relationships, which we review in this report, according to the British newspaper “Metro” website.
Signs that you are in a romantic relationship:
you change because of him
“If you find that you are giving up on others, or giving up things you love, or loving other things that align with someone else’s desires, you are in danger of giving up your rights to a fulfilling life,” Mary said.
“If your partner doesn’t like red and your favorite color is red, you can stop wearing it or go so far as to convince yourself you don’t like it either,” she added.
You control your life
Mary pointed out that this point is a sign of partner narcissism: “This is a sign of narcissism, where narcissists like to control their partners, and are happy with it.”
“Be aware of anyone holding you down, rejecting you, or belittling you because they’re doing it to feel better about themselves. Unfortunately, that’s a sign that you’re in a dependent relationship,” she added.
You depend on the other side
There is often only one person in a relationship who needs their partner, and a dependent person may find themselves putting their partner’s needs above their own, and making every effort to keep the relationship smooth.
“Many dependent people feel uncomfortable being on the receiving end of a relationship, but healthy relationships are the ones that are reciprocal in everything,” Marie points out.
A romantic relationship based on dependence
Breaking up with him is the end of the world
The person who depends on the other party feels that he cannot live without him, and this is a problem, as he always feels afraid to leave the partner because he thinks that this is the end of the world for him, and this is a sign that this relationship is not correct.
You feel guilty if you say “no” to him.
“It is common for people who are dependent on others to feel intense guilt for saying no to their partner and also pretend to agree even if it is not consistent with their values and beliefs,” Mary says.
Dependent romantic relationship
What would you do if you were in a dependable relationship?
Get to know yourself
When a person is sure that he is in a dependent relationship, he must first feel himself, understand himself, think what he wants and be honest with himself.
Far from your partner
A person must separate from his life partner who is trying to cancel his personality and surround himself with people who support him in his decisions and help him forget his previous emotional relationship.
Identify the basis of the problem
Often the reason for the consent of one party to the relationship depending on the other is the presence of problems formed in childhood, and these problems can be treated through psychological therapy, to avoid repeating the experience of the previous emotional relationship in the future.
He must get used to rejecting the request of anyone who tries to exhaust his personal skills, time, talent, money and energy, and refuses in a decent manner so as not to lose those around him, and he may feel guilty at first, but with time he feels better and gets used to rejecting anyone who does not agree with him.