A British mother has revealed her extended family have cut all contact with her after accusing her of hiding a lottery win and not sharing the winnings.
The woman, who lives in the North West of England, took to Mumsnet to share the bizarre story, and asked other parents for advice about how to ‘deal with’ the drama.
In a lengthy post, she explained that her family ‘struggled financially’ when she was a child and had a ‘lot of debt’, but she now earns a ‘six figure’ salary each year.
She revealed her finances have prompted suspicion from her extended family, who have accused her of ‘hiding a lottery win’ and have now stopped contacting her.
A woman, who lives in the North West of England, said she has been accused by her extended family of hiding a lottery win, who are furious she hasn’t shared the ‘winnings’ (stock image)
The mother explained: ‘My family struggled financially when I was young – trouble paying rent, lots of debt etc. I was always hyper-aware of money and our lack of it – how I didn’t have the clothes, tech or holidays my friends did.
‘I used to feel very stressed listening to my parents panic about paying the rent and having people banging on the door.’
She continued: ‘Over the past ten years, I’ve worked my way up in my industry and now make six figures. My job is very full on, mentally draining and requires very long hours.
‘Financial stability for me and my immediate family has always been of paramount importance to me (probably due to my financially unstable background), so I’ve been happy to trade off the life part of the work-life balance in order to feel secure, with the intention of moving into a less stressful role once I’m there.
Taking to Mumsnet, a British mother explained her family accused her of hiding a big lottery win after she bought her parents a house, which has led to the strange accusations
‘Over the last few years, I’ve paid off all of my debts, mortgage and student loans. I’ve also bought a new car and a house for my parents who previously rented and struggled to pay.
‘It should be noted that both mine and my parents houses are small terraces worth under £100K. The car was second hand (£5,000). I’m not interested in or aiming for anything fancy – I just want to feel secure.
‘I’ve also been able to take us on holidays abroad, which we never did, and weekend trips (not in lockdown, obviously).’
She went on to say her mother had told her extended family about some of her purchases, causing them to accuse her of hiding a lottery win.
She revealed: ‘My large extended family (mainly uncles and cousins) are aware of some/most of the above as my darling mother tells everyone everything – it’s natural to her.
‘They know I’ve got a professional job, but don’t know my salary… This has somehow resulted in me being accused of hiding a lottery win.’
The woman explained that they are furious that she hasn’t shared her money, or given it to their children for University fees or a deposit.
She said her extended family have now completely cut contact with her and her parents, who they insist were ‘in on it’, with the drama making her think that she should ‘just send them money’.
The post was met with outrage by fellow Mumsnet users, who were shocked that she was even considering giving her extended family any of her hard-earned money
She explained: ‘In the few conversations we have had, they’ve said things like “You didn’t need to give anything to me, but you could have given some to [their DC] for uni/a deposit/etc.” So now I’m an evil aunt too and my nephews and nieces aren’t talking to me.’
She said things had gotten so extreme that she considered ‘just sending them money’, or stepping into a ‘less stressful, less well paid role’ in order to end the drama with her family.
The post was met with outrage by fellow Mumsnet users, who were shocked that she was even considering giving her extended family any of her hard-earned money.
They were quick to throw their support behind her and offer advice, with one writing: ‘Ignore, they sound grabby. Your money, you’re entitled to do what you want with it! I’d just reiterate you didn’t have a lottery win, and leave it at that.’
While another commented: ‘Situations like this always bring out the best or worst in people.
‘They’re making assumptions and that was their decision. Don’t do anything.’
And a third fumed: ‘Tell them to stop being so bloody cheeky and stay out of your finances.’
