Thousands of girls from some of Australia’s top private schools have claimed they were sexually assaulted in a petition demanding students be taught about consent.
Among the disturbing accounts shared since Kambala School alumni Chanel Contos, 22, launched the petition on February 18, one horrifying theme emerges – most of their alleged rapists were their boyfriends or close male friends.
Many anonymously revealed they lost their virginity to their rapists – who went to elite Sydney boys’ schools including The King’s School, St Ignatius College Riverview, and Cranbrook – while they slept, or were too drunk to consent.
One girl wrote that she was a 15-year-old virgin in 2016 when she met her first boyfriend who had a ‘rape fetish’, and assaulted her repeatedly throughout their relationship.
Former Kambala student Chanel Contos, 22, (pictured) started the petition when she realised last year she and her friend were both sexually assaulted by the same person as teenagers
‘On our first date I told him I didn’t even want to kiss and he forced one on me… later he coerced me into losing my virginity before the legal age, which I insisted I did not want to do,’ she said.
The student, from Monte Sant’ Angelo Mercy College in North Sydney, claimed the Cranbrook boy ‘manipulated’ and ‘forced’ her into having sex on countless occasions, or would rape her when she was asleep or too drunk to say no.
‘One time I regained consciousness while drunk to him picking me up, putting me in bed and saying “sorry” after he had raped me,’ the teenager said.
Eventually, he told her about his ‘rape fetish’, and joked with his friends at a party about gang raping her.
Another victim, from Kincoppal in Rose Bay, said her first boyfriend went to catholic boys boarding school Saint Ignatius College Riverview and was ‘obsessed’ with taking her virginity.
‘One time we were in bed together he kept asking to “just put the tip in”, even though I kept saying no repeatedly,’ she wrote in the petition.
She felt pressured into sex and was worried he wouldn’t like her anymore if she refused.
‘I had been assaulted before and while he was trying to push himself inside me I started having flashbacks and crying,’ the girl said.
He only stopped because she was ‘sobbing too hard’.
A teenage girl from St Catherine’s said her ex boyfriend from Moriah College often touched her body without asking and eventually ‘coerced’ her into sex, despite saying no ‘literally 20 times’
‘I was overwhelmed and confused, but surely it must have been fine, because he was my first love,’ she wrote.
‘It hurt so much that I shouted in pain, but he carried on, and said “that was it” when he felt my hymen “break”.’
Ms Contos (pictured) said she hopes the petition will bring change to sexuality education to students across Australia
Chantel Contos’ petition now has signatures from close to 7,000 former and current school students across Australia
The girl said one of her school friends was also raped by a boy who she considered to be her best friend.
‘I once asked her if it was normal to feel sad after making out with her boyfriend, and she told me “yes” and that those feelings would go away,’ she said.
‘Now I realise we had both been assaulted and didn’t know what was okay, or normal.’
Another St Catherine’s student said she woke up in complete darkness in 2017 to find her boyfriend ‘inside me’, despite telling him earlier that she was too tired.
‘I rarely said no to sex, so he continued to ask. Eventually, sometime after I had fallen asleep, he started touching me. When I opened my eyes to find him inside of me, I felt sick,’ she wrote.
Hundreds of girls who attended Sydney private schools has claimed they were sexually assaulted and raped by private school boys. Pictured: Chanel Contos is calling for better sex education
Ms Contos said Kambala High School (pictured) gave her a ‘great consent education but they gave it too late’
A victim from Kambala said her boyfriend forced her into anal sex while she was drunk on her 18th birthday, ‘despite screaming no and yelling in pain’.
She said he manipulated her into feeling as though she had done something wrong, adding that she only realised it was rape years later.
One girl from Kincoppal said she had been dating her boyfriend, an ex Riverview student, for 11 months when she got ‘really drunk’ in 2020.
While the couple often engaged sexually, they hadn’t had penetrative sex because she wanted to remain a virgin.
‘We had spoken about it at length,’ she said.
‘He proceeded to do it in the shower and I woke lying on the shower floor realising what had happened.’
The morning after, he said: ‘I know I didn’t rape you, because I did a sexual consent course at university and what I did was not rape.’
He broke up with her two months later.
Ms Contos’ petition now thousands of testimonies from woman aged between 13 to 50-years-old from across Australia. Pictured: Testimonies from victims
Testimonials on the petition have accused unnamed students from Sydney’s most exclusive all-boy schools, including St Ignatius Riverview (pictured)
Another girl said she kissed a boy from The King’s School in 2016, before he bought her multiple drinks when they were at a bar together at the age of 18.
‘He kept telling me to skol them and then would buy me more,’ she said, before the situation took a dire turn and he lead her back to his room.
‘He started taking off my clothing. I was so drunk I passed out on his bed. I woke up in the middle of the night without any clothes on to him having sex with me.’
She panicked and pretended to be asleep until he stopped, before running from his house the next morning without her phone, wallet and ‘half my clothing’.
Chanel Contos started the petition because she was sexually abused at the age of 13.
She was forced to give oral sex to a boy when she was in Year 8, but did not realise she had been raped or learn about consent until she attended a sex consent class in Year 10 that presented by a former police officer.
‘I was sexually abused and I also found out last year when I was talking with my friends that the same person who did it to me did it to another one of my friends,’ she told The Project on Tuesday.
The now 22-year-old said she couldn’t sleep the night she found out and felt as though she could have stopped it but she didn’t realise at the time that it was wrong.
‘I just felt anger – why didn’t I know it was wrong? Why couldn’t I stop that?,’ she said.
Ms Contos previously told Daily Mail Australia she ‘knew that something had to be done’.
At least 1,500 former students have signed the petition or shared stories of their own alleged assaults. Pictured: Chantel Contos, who said she was forced to perform oral sex on a boy
Chanel Contos’ petition nearly has 7,000 signatures from men and women across Australia
‘The realisation you’ve been sexually assaulted, it’s a hard thing to go through’.
Ms Contos said despite her school giving her a ‘great consent education, they gave it too late.’
‘A lot of people are already sexually active by 15 or 16, and you need to have this consent training before you become sexually active’, she said.
‘People who have contacted me have said they received no consent sexual education, especially boys schools said that it was minimal to none.’
Ms Contos’ petition now has thousands of testimonies from woman aged between 13 to 50-years-old from across Australia.
Chantel Contos (pictured) is calling for schools to provide consent sexual education to students from a young age
Her former school Kambala has reached out to her following the petition and asked her to work with them to help them teach consent to young students.
It is estimated one in five Australian women have experienced sexual violence, but only 28 per cent of alleged rape victims come forward in NSW.
Of the incidents reported to NSW Police in 2018/19, only about three per cent ended in a guilty conviction.
If the sexual assault charges make it to court, 34 per cent result in a guilty conviction, according to 2018/19 data provided to the Law Reform Commission.
If this story has raised issues for you, please contact 1800 Respect 1800 737 732, Lifeline 13 11 14, beyondblue 1300 224 636, Domestic Violence Line 1800 65 64 63
