Prince Harry has revealed he was discouraged from discussing his mental health as a child following the sudden death of his mother, and when he tried to ask his family for help more recently, when Meghan was feeling suicidal, he was ‘met with total silence’ and neglect.
In candid interviews with Oprah Winfrey on his new show, The Me You Can’t See, he said: ‘I thought my family would help, but every single ask, request, warning, whatever, it is just got met with total silence, total neglect.
‘We spent four years trying to make it work. We did everything that we possibly could to stay there and carry on doing the role and doing the job. But Meghan was struggling.’
He said the way Meghan was being treated, while facing racist remarks from the press, reminded him of his own mother’s final days.
‘History was repeating itself,’ he said in an interview with Oprah. ‘My mother was chased to her death while she was in a relationship with someone who wasn’t white. And now look what’s happened.
‘It’s incredibly triggering to potentially lose another woman in my life. Like, the list is growing. And it all comes back to the same people, the same business model, the same industry,’ he said.
Prince Harry has revealed he was discouraged from discussing his mental health as a child following the sudden death of his mother, and when he tried to ask his family for help more recently, when Meghan was feeling suicidal, he was ‘met with total silence’ and neglect. The Apple TV show was broadcast Thursday and was produced by the Duke and Winfrey
In candid interviews with Oprah Winfrey on his new show, The Me You Can’t See, he said: ‘I thought my family would help, but every single ask, request, warning, whatever, it is just got met with total silence, total neglect
In the candid interviews, the prince discusses his failure to process the grief from the death of his mother; the helplessness he felt to protect her; his dependence on drugs and alcohol to numb the pain; his anxiety and sense of being trapped in the palace; his family’s refusal to help when Megan felt suicidal and how therapy helped him ‘break the cycle.’
‘For me, therapy has equipped me to be able to take on anything,’ he said.
He says his family tried to prevent him and Megan from leaving when she was suicidal and admits to drinking and doing drugs in his 30s.
‘Eventually when I made that decision for my family, I was still told, ‘You can’t do this,’ Harry recounted to Oprah. ‘And it’s like, ‘Well how bad does it have to get until I am allowed to do this?’ She [Markle] was going to end her life. It shouldn’t have to get to that.’
When asked if he has any regrets, he says it is not taking a stand earlier in his relationship with Markle.
Oprah Winfreys also cries as she speaks to Harry in a film the pair both helped produce
Harry urges viewers to speak out in the clip that also shows his wife and son together at home in Los Angeles
Harry said his family tried to prevent him and Megan from leaving when she was having suicidal thoughts
Harry said he felt like history was repeating itself when Megan felt suicidal, reminding him of the death of his mother. He is pictured, right, with his older brother, William, at Princess Diana’s funeral in 1997
Prince Harry sparks furious backlash in the US after calling the First Amendment ‘bonkers’ despite admitting he doesn’t ‘understand it’
Prince Harry has sparked outrage in the US, the country that welcomed him when he fled from British royal life, after describing the First Amendment – one of the country’s most cherished founding principles – as ‘bonkers’.
Harry – who fled British royal life to live in luxury in California last year and has since made a fortune through American companies like Netflix and Spotify while living in California – made the comments on Dax Shepard’s podcast on Thursday.
‘I’ve got so much I want to say about the First Amendment as I sort of understand it, but it is bonkers.
‘I don’t want to start going down the First Amendment route because that’s a huge subject and one which I don’t understand because I’ve only been here a short time, but you can find a loophole in anything.
‘You can capitalize or exploit what’s not said rather than uphold what is said.’
Many Americans who’d embraced him and reacted sympathetically to his comments on Oprah were angered by the remarks, as were Brits.
The stand-out feature of the show comes as a 13-year-old Harry is seen watching his mother’s coffin – that of Diana, Princess of Wales – passing him during her funeral in London in 1997.
Prince Charles can be seen speaking to his heartbroken son as a female voiceover says over dramatic music: ‘Treating people with dignity is the first act’.
Harry tells Oprah: ‘To make that decision to receive help is not a sign of weakness. In today’s world more than ever, it is a sign of strength.’
It also features interviews with others discussing their struggles with mental health, including tearful interviews with singer Lady Gaga, actress Glenn Close and US chat show queen Oprah herself as well as a feature on a Syrian refugee named Fawzi, described as a hero on the program.
Along with Winfrey, the Duke of Sussex is an executive producer of ‘The Me You Can’t See’, which premiered on Apple TV+ on Thursday.
The show’s release comes amid a backlash last week in the US after Harry’s attack on the ‘bonkers’ First Amendment and after his broadside at the Royal Family in which he appeared to suggest both his father and the Queen had failed as parents.
Experts have said they now expect Harry to talk about his family again and the decision to quit as frontline royals in the upcoming documentary
The Queen and Princess Diana, Harry’s mother, are pictured together in 1989
Harry described the pain of losing his mother Diana. Handout CCTV footage showing Diana, Princess of Wales with Dodi Fayed inside the Ritz Hotel, which has been shown to the jury at the inquest into her death
Footage shown in the clip shows William (second left) and Harry (right) as they grieved for their mother Diana
Prince Charles, Prince Philip and Prince Harry appear during the Thames Diamond Jubilee Pageant in London on June 3, 2012
Prince Harry talks about ‘going wild’ in his youth in frank discussion about Dax Shepard doing ‘s*** loads of drugs’ and ‘partying hard’ on podcast
Prince Harry has spoken of ‘going wild’ as he chatted with a Hollywood star about their own drugs and alcohol problems.
The Duke of Sussex, 36, was speaking on actor Dax Shepard’s ‘Armchair Expert’ mental health podcast when he made the remarks. Harry was quizzing the star – who is married to Frozen actress Kristen Bell – about the American’s substance use in high school.
The Royal asked him about Shepard’s ‘awareness’ of what sparked his path towards drugs as a teenager. Harry told him: ‘For you it was your upbringing and everything that happened to you – the trauma, pain and suffering. All of a sudden you find yourself doing a s***load of drugs and partying hard.
‘Look how many other people do that as well. They wouldn’t have the awareness at the time. I certainly wouldn’t have had the awareness when I was going wild. It’s like why am I actually doing this? In the moment its like, this is fun. I’m in my 20s – it’s what you’re supposed to do.’
Harry himself has been linked to smoking cannabis and drinking. A recent Channel 5 documentary called Prince Harry: The Troubled Prince featured broadcaster Daisy McAndrew.
She told the programme: ‘You can really understand how a lonely, privileged unhappy Prince would end up drinking and partying and taking cannabis to fill those hours and hang out with people he thought really liked or even loved him.’
Prince Charles is known to have taken the young Duke aged 16 to a residential centre for drug users for a visit after finding out.
Reformed users at Peckham’s Featherstone Lodge warned him their addictions had started with drinking alcohol and smoking cannabis.
Royal Family expert Katie Nicholl said that Harry’s recent comments have left Britons in ‘quite a bit of shock’ that he ‘went as far as he did’.
She told Entertainment Tonight: ‘I think certainly people over here are a little disappointed and I think frustrated as well, hearing Prince Harry indirectly criticize the royal family, which I think is the interpretation by some over here in the UK’
Nicholl added: ‘A lot of people here think Prince Harry has overstepped a mark in talking so personally about his father, and his relationship with his father, in what most people have interpreted to be quite a critical way.’
The Duke of Sussex had told Dax Shepard, host of the ‘Armchair Expert’ podcast: ‘He (Charles) treated me the way he was treated, so how can I change that for my own kids?’ Harry then described his life as a cross between the film The Truman Show – in which a man discovers he is living in a reality TV programme – and a zoo.
Haryr’s latest interview on The Me You Can’t See will likely be seen as another barbed attack on the Royal Family and spark fresh pain for Charles, coming so soon after Prince Harry said he quit as a frontline royal to ‘break the cycle’ of ‘genetic suffering’.
At one point Meghan can be seen looking over Harry’s shoulder at a computer as she wears a ‘Raising The Future’ t-shirt in their LA mansion.
The Sussexes’ son Archie is also shown sitting on his mother’s lap later on – in footage filmed around the time of his first birthday.
The duke and Winfrey have joined forces to guide ‘honest discussions about mental health and emotional wellbeing while opening up about their personal journeys and struggles’, the Archewell website said.
Harry adds in the footage: ‘The results of this year will be felt for decades. The kids, families, husbands, wives, everybody.’
The Sussexes made a series of damaging allegations about the royal family when they were interviewed by Winfrey earlier his year.
The couple accused an unnamed royal, not the Queen or Philip, of raising concerns about how dark their son Archie’s skin tone would be, before he was born.
Meghan also said she asked for help when she was suicidal, but said the monarchy gave her no support.
Harry has spoken of the emotional turmoil he faced after his mother was killed in a Paris car crash in 1997, saying he spent nearly two decades ‘not thinking’ about her death before eventually getting help after a period of ‘total chaos’.
It comes just days after Prince Harry suggested he took drugs as he spoke about ‘going wild’ during a chat with a Hollywood star about their own drugs and alcohol problems.
The Duke of Sussex, 36, was speaking on actor Dax Shepard’s ‘Armchair Expert’ mental health podcast when he made the remarks.
Harry was quizzing the star – who is married to Frozen actress Kristen Bell – about the American’s substance use in high school.
(From left) Dax Shepard, his co-host Monica Padman and Prince Harry pose in a photograph for the Armchair Experts podcast
Prince Harry: My life is like The Truman Show
Harry admitted his life was like The Truman Show starring Jim Carrey and Natascha McElhone was a huge hit, nominated for three Oscars.
The blockbuster follows a man who is unaware that he is living in a reality show, played by Jim Carrey.
Truman has a job in the insurance business and a wife, but he eventually notices that his environment is not what it seems to be and that everyone in the show is an actor apart from him.
Once he cottons on he is repeatedly thwarted until he manages to escape, saying his catchphrase: ‘In case I don’t see you… good afternoon, good evening, and good night’, bowing to his audience and walking off set to cheers from viewers around the globe.
The Royal asked him about Shepard’s ‘awareness’ of what sparked his path towards drugs as a teenager.
Harry told him ‘For you it was your upbringing and everything that happened to you – the trauma, pain and suffering.
‘All of a sudden you find yourself doing a s***load of drugs and partying hard.
‘Look how many other people do that as well. They wouldn’t have the awareness at the time.
‘I certainly wouldn’t have had the awareness when I was going wild.
‘It’s like why am I actually doing this? In the moment its like, this is fun. I’m in my 20s – it’s what you’re supposed to do.’
Harry, who is expecting a daughter with Meghan this summer, suggested Charles had ‘suffered’ because of his upbringing by the Queen and Prince Philip, and the Prince of Wales had ‘treated me the way he was treated’, calling it ‘genetic pain’.
During the wide-ranging interview lasting 90 minutes, Harry – who appears to have developed an American twang to his British accent since leaving the UK – said: ‘I don’t think we should be pointing the finger or blaming anybody, but certainly when it comes to parenting, if I’ve experienced some form of pain or suffering because of the pain or suffering that perhaps my father or my parents had suffered, I’m going to make sure I break that cycle so that I don’t pass it on, basically.
‘It’s a lot of genetic pain and suffering that gets passed on anyway so we as parents should be doing the most we can to try and say ‘you know what, that happened to me, I’m going to make sure that doesn’t happen to you’.’
He added: ‘I never saw it, I never knew about it, and then suddenly I started to piece it together and go ‘OK, so this is where he went to school, this is what happened, I know this about his life, I also know that is connected to his parents so that means he’s treated me the way he was treated, so how can I change that for my own kids’.
‘And here I am, I moved my whole family to the US, that wasn’t the plan but sometimes you’ve got make decisions and put your family first and put your mental health first.’
Oprah Winfrey interviews Prince Harry and Meghan Markle on A CBS Primetime Special
Prince Harry should think about how his words impact the Queen and Prince Charles’ mental health, royal expert says
Speaking on This Morning, royal editor Camilla Tominey was reacting to the Duke of Sussex‘s recent podcast with US actor Dax Shepard, where he spoke of suffering ‘generational trauma’.
In the attention-grabbing interview, Harry, 36, who relocated his pregnant wife Meghan Markle, 39 and his son Archie, one to Los Angeles, said his royal life was like the ‘the Truman Show’ or being an animal being watched in a zoo.
Camilla said Harry was entitled to share his story, but added there was ‘a degree of exploitation’ going on, and that interviewers were only thinking of the ratings, and don’t take into account the fallout.
‘I think you can talk about your own mental health but you have to be aware of the consequences on other people’s,’ she said.
‘Like the fact the Queen has just buried her husband, the father of Prince Charles, and then the son is over across the Atlantic having a go about the way he’s been brought up.’